Parents who share children should find ways to make the situation as stress-free as possible for the kids. Exchange days are some that children might struggle with because of the heightened emotions that come with them.
Children often notice more than what their parents realize, so it’s important for both parents to pay close attention to their actions during the exchange. Harsh tones, sharp comments and overall negative behavior could make the transition harder for the children.
Predictability is important
Keeping exchange days predictably calm can help children to feel more stable on these days. You and your ex should avoid trying to discuss anything contentious at these exchanges. Even if there are matters that need to be discussed, saving them for another day is likely a good idea.
Calmness is a key
The emotions the child feels on transfer day don’t happen only at the exchange. They may start to feel sad that they’re leaving one parent but happy that they’re going to spend time with the other early in the day. Because of this, it’s a good idea to keep the entire day calm.
Even if it’s tempting to do so, it might be best to avoid making too many plans for the child. Consider setting a tradition of something calming that day. Maybe have breakfast and a favorite show on the morning the child is leaving your home, or pizza and a movie on the evening they’re coming back to your home.
It may also be beneficial to have the parenting plan set up in a way that’s best for the children. The guidelines in the plan help ensure both parents know their responsibilities and have the same information about raising the children.